Monday, August 29, 2016

Where did August go?

Well, hello there. Looks like the B@ker Blog took a bit of a summer vacation. Once again, busyness has taken over, and at the end of each quick day, I am too worn out (lazy...?) to post!

The journey since my last post has taken us to Raleight-Durham North Carolina and back, with a visit to Cam, Sue and Ken, and nephew Tony thrown in. Annalisse and I travelled 1,750 miles in six days to check out possible dietetic internship (DI) programs for next year. On the way down we stopped to spend the weekend with Cam (who is doing better, although disappointed he didn't get the job at Wayfair in Boston - his interests did not meet their needs ~ DUH ~ he's interested in big data and they needed a coding monkey.  I think that probably came through in the interview. LOUD AND CLEAR.), before heading down to Roanoke (well, technically Salem, Virginia), for an overnight with Sue and Ken, and the bonus of spending time with Cousin San. On Monday morning, with Sue and Ken joining us, our first stop was at UNC Greensboro, where Annalisse had a nice visit, but learned that the program requires the GRE, which she is not planning to take, so that one was "out."

Next, we travelled to Raleigh to Meredith College, where the woman she spoke with was from Buffalo and had gone to the University of Rochester. Apparently, there are a lot of Rochester-Buffalo-Syracuse folks in the R-D area. Meredith was a great visit, and she was excited about that prospect.

After Meredith, we hooked up with Tony for a walk around downtown Raleigh and dinner. Man, was it HOT and MUGGY. (I still prefer it to snow.) On Tuesday morning we headed over to Duke Medical Center where she met with the DI coordinator, and had a great visit there as well.

On the way home on Wednesday we stopped again at Cam's for the night, and went out for a nice dinner, for which he paid with his first paycheck (YAY!). When we got there he informed us he had been contacted the U of R -- more than six months after he applied for a position and spent months trying to get a response from them. He comes home this Thursday night for the long Labor Day weekend and has an interview on site with them Friday afternoon. It would be a temp-to-perm position so we will just need to see how it pans out. There are others being interviewed so I think he's being realistic about it, and is prepared to stay at his current job for a while if he doesn't get an offer. He's also taking an online class to fill some knowledge gaps in areas he would like to pursue work. So, we shall see.

A week ago this past Sunday, we moved Annalisse back to Syracuse for her senior year. Can you believe it?

When Cam comes home for the weekend we are finally going to get the car squared away and signed over to him. Then, hopefully I can get our second car. Being a one car family this past month hasn't been totally horrible, but has been inconvenient at times.


Sunday, August 7, 2016

Weekus Horribulus

Here we are a week after a stressful week, with another...stressful week.

On Monday, the week started off with me (and Mark, I'm sure) already feeling a bit beaten down from the events to move Cam. Still, we were excited for him to start his new job, and were really looking forward to hearing about his first day. was terrible. As described by him, he went in, spent an hour with his boss, and was then told "Ok, go do your stuff." He had no idea what he was doing and did not know what to do. He was upset, feeling lost and unqualified, and felt like he couldn't even go back the next day. Uh oh. I tried to calm him down, and let him know that quitting after one day, or even several days, is not an option for a whole host of reasons, among them that we did not have the $$ to move him back and he had signed a year lease. Then Monday night, he saw a mouse in his apartment. I'm pretty sure that ranked as on of the worst days of his life (so far!).

On Tuesday afternoon he texted me to let me know he wanted to give me a call in the evening. Of course I said "call now," and we talked about how his second day was not any better than his first, with no direction and no understanding about how to do his job. Panic all around.

On Wednesday morning I called him before he left for work to talk through how he should approach his day. My advice: explain to his supervisor that he needs more direction and a training plan. Also, say that even though he has software development experience, he has not done what they are asking - it's new to him. He actually listened to me, and he had a better day on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. He said he had a project plan and that there was someone assigned to work more closely with him, like a mentor. When I spoke with him on Friday he said he felt he could stick it out for at least 4-5 months, but didn't think he'd be there for the long run. My feeling is that a smaller, more intimate work environment might work better for him.

On top of this, his debit card, which was mailed from Rochester on July 28, has still not arrived, meaning he is running out the cash he has no access to his bank account. I ordered another which was supposed to come via FedEx on Friday, but it has not come yet. Grrrr.

So, all in all, it's been a stressful week for the Bakers, and especially for Cam who is in a situation without a support system and no social contacts. It's a bit of a crash course in navigating a professional work situation, and dealing with really being away from home for the first time (with a bit loneliness thrown in). I'm hoping he has a better week. Annalisse and I will be heading down on Friday for the weekend before heading to Roanoke and Raleigh to visit internship programs, so are looking forward to spending time with him.

Please keep Cam in your thoughts this week!